Creating Family Routines
Updated: Apr 22
When you decide on the right Nanny for you and your family it is important that you set out your expectations from the beginning. For the first week ensure to write down your procedures until they get into a routine with you and the family. Include school schedule, naps, classes, extracurricular activities, meals, snacks and homework.
Loop your nanny into the timing of things, such as how long it may take on a busy morning to drive to school and how long it realistically takes your kid to get dressed and eat breakfast. As a general note, before you leave the house in the morning, you might want to give her a rundown of the day& events, especially if there are changes to the routine.
Routines are how families organise themselves to get things done, spend time together and have fun. Every family has its own unique routines. Routines help family members know who should do what, when, in what order and how often.
For example, your family might have:
daily routines for work and school mornings, bath time, bedtime, mealtimes, greetings and goodbyes weekly routines for housework, like washing and cleaning
Family life is often smoother with a few routines, but there’s more to routines than this. Routines also let your children know what’s important to your family. Some children like and need routine more than others. In general, though, routines have the following benefits for children.
Routines built around having fun or spending time together strengthen family relationships. For example, reading a story together before bed or going for a special snack after soccer practice can become a special time for you and your child to share. Having chores to do in family routines helps children and teenagers develop a sense of responsibility and some basic skills like the ability to manage time. This can be as simple as the children making their bed before school. These are skills children can use for life. When children can do their parts of the routine with less help or supervision from you, it also helps them become more independent. Routines can be a way of teaching younger children healthy habits, like brushing their teeth, taking medicine regularly, getting some exercise, or washing their hands after using the toilet.
This means that routines can be good for children’s health. For example, children who wash their hands more regularly might be less likely to get colds and other common illnesses. Also, routines can reduce stress, and lower stress is good for children’s immune systems. Daily routines help set our body clocks too. For example, bedtime routines help children’s bodies ‘know’ when it’s time to sleep. This can be a big help when children reach adolescence and their body clocks start to change.
Parents: why routines are good for you?
Routines take some effort to create. But once you’ve set them up, they have lots of benefits: Routines help you get through your daily tasks and free up time for other things. Regular and consistent routines can help you feel like you’re doing a good job as a parent. When life is busy, routines can help you feel more organised and in control, which lowers stress. Routines often free you from having to resolve disputes and make decisions. For example, if Sunday night is pizza night, no-one needs to argue about what’s for dinner.
What makes a good daily routine?
There are no rules about how many or what kind of routines you should have. All families are different, and what works well for one family might not work for another. Your routines need to be based on your individual family needs. But effective routines do share three key features:
Well planned: in a good routine, everyone understands their roles, knows what they need to do and sees their roles as reasonable and fair. For example, your children know that they take turns with washing up and drying up each night after dinner. Regular: good routines become part of everyday family life. For example, you might all look forward to Sunday night barbecues with your children’s grandparents. Predictable: in a good routine, things happen in the same order each time. For example, you always wash school uniforms on the weekend, so you know they’ll be ready for Monday morning.
Ideas for daily routines - Toddlers and pre-schoolers For toddlers and pre-schoolers, you could have routines for: getting ready in the morning getting together with other children to play, perhaps at playgroup eating meals spending time playing and talking together each day reading books or telling stories brushing their teeth in the morning and before bed having quiet time and going to bed at night. Ideas for daily routines - School-age children For school-age children, you could have routines for: getting ready in the morning and going to bed at night tidying up toys getting together with other children to play, perhaps after school once or twice a week giving out pocket money at a regular time and day doing after-school activities like hobbies or sport doing chores – for example, setting the dinner table, unpacking the dishwasher, helping with the laundry, or caring for pets.
Ideas for daily routines - Teenagers Older children and teenagers might grow out of, or start to challenge, some routines. You’ll probably need to be flexible and adapt routines as your children get older. For example, you might need to change bedtime routines or the chores that children do around the house. For teenagers, you could have routines for: doing laundry or other chores like making beds and cleaning rooms doing homework doing after-school activities, including hobbies or sport. Ideas for routines for the whole family You could have routines for: preparing and eating meals together spending family time, like regular walks after dinner or movie nights having family meetings, or just taking turns talking about the day spending special one-to-one time with parents catching up with extended family and friends taking part in special celebration days or community activities.